"Love is like war: easy to begin but very hard to stop"
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The second clause is where Mencken’s cynicism bites. “Very hard to stop” isn’t a valentine; it’s an after-action report. Love, like war, creates sunk costs and collateral damage: shared histories, social commitments, pride, the fear of looking foolish, the temptation to “win,” even when winning means staying. The subtext is that people don’t just fall in love; they enlist. Once enlisted, they start justifying losses, escalating commitments, rewriting the story so the suffering feels meaningful. That’s the psychological logic of conflict, applied to romance.
Context matters: Mencken wrote in a period when American public life was drenched in patriotic rhetoric and mass persuasion, and he spent his career puncturing pieties. Pairing love with war is his way of mocking sentimental culture while also acknowledging something bleakly true about human behavior: we mistake momentum for purpose. The wit is surgical - he doesn’t deny love’s power, he indicts its politics.
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| Topic | Love |
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| Source | Notes: The line appears in dialogue in Act II, spoken by the character Heliogabalus on Act II; page 132. This is a primary source (Mencken co-authored the play with George Jean Nathan) and the book is documented as published in New York by Alfred A. Knopf in 1920. Evidence: Love is like war: easy to begin but very hard to stop. Other candidates (2) Quotes: The Famous and Not so Famous (Terence M. Dorn Ph.D., 2021) compilation91.7% ... Mencken Love is like war : easy to begin but very hard to stop.—H. L. Mencken In war the heroes always outnumber ... H. L. Mencken (H. L. Mencken) compilation38.8% 6 to be in love is merely to be in a state of perpetual anesthesia to mistake an |
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