"Love is not only something you feel, it is something you do"
About this Quote
The phrasing does a lot of work. “Not only” concedes the emotional reality without granting it authority; feelings matter, they’re just not the standard. “Something you do” is almost bluntly unromantic, turning love into labor: time, attention, restraint, forgiveness, showing up, giving things up. It’s also a theological move. In Christian ethics, love (agape) is modeled less as chemistry than as covenant and service; the proof is visible, measurable, sometimes inconvenient.
The subtext is a warning against performative spirituality and hollow piety: don’t confuse a rush of devotion, a worship-song high, or a charitable self-image for actual care of another person. It also pushes back on a culture that treats authenticity as a feeling report. Wilkerson is arguing for accountability: love that can’t survive when it costs you wasn’t love; it was mood.
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| Topic | Love |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Wilkerson, David. (2026, January 15). Love is not only something you feel, it is something you do. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-is-not-only-something-you-feel-it-is-49549/
Chicago Style
Wilkerson, David. "Love is not only something you feel, it is something you do." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-is-not-only-something-you-feel-it-is-49549/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Love is not only something you feel, it is something you do." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-is-not-only-something-you-feel-it-is-49549/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.













