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Love Quote by Robert A. Heinlein

"Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own... Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy"

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Heinlein smuggles a relational ethics lesson into the sleek casing of a diagnostic. Calling jealousy a "disease" isn’t just name-calling; it’s a genre move. The sci-fi writer who loved systems and first principles treats emotions like technologies that either function or malfunction. Love, in his formulation, isn’t a fever dream or a private possession. It’s an interdependence test: if your well-being requires the other person’s well-being, you’ve crossed from appetite into something sturdier.

The subtext is a rebuke to the romance script that confuses intensity with legitimacy. Jealousy often masquerades as proof of devotion because it looks dramatic and feels urgent; it produces plot. Heinlein refuses that theater. By labeling jealousy "immature", he frames it as a developmental error: an untrained mind reads threat-detection as intimacy, surveillance as care. The line "the greater the love, the greater the jealousy" skewers a particularly sticky cultural myth, the one that lets possessiveness cosplay as passion.

Context matters: Heinlein wrote in a midcentury America steeped in domestic norms, Cold War anxiety, and rigid ideas about ownership in relationships (and, by extension, bodies). His fiction frequently poked at monogamy, freedom, and social contracts; this quote carries that libertarian-inflected insistence that love should expand autonomy, not police it. It’s not sentimental. It’s corrective. He’s offering a hard, unromantic metric: if your "love" needs control to feel safe, it isn’t love breaking down under pressure - it’s something else finally telling the truth.

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TopicLove
SourceTime Enough for Love, Robert A. Heinlein, 1973 — novel containing the commonly cited passage beginning "Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own..."
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Robert A. Heinlein (July 7, 1907 - May 8, 1988) was a Writer from USA.

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