"Love is when the other person's happiness is more important than your own"
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The subtext is where it gets thornier. By equating love with putting another person's happiness first, Brown nudges the reader toward sacrifice as proof. That can be bracing, even beautiful: it frames love as attention, caretaking, and the daily choice to be generous. But it also smuggles in a hierarchy that can be exploited. "More important than your own" can validate healthy devotion, or it can normalize self-erasure and uneven relationships, especially for people already trained to serve.
Context matters: Brown is the author of Life's Little Instruction Book, a genre built on aphorisms that aspire to be portable wisdom. Aphorisms win by compression, not caveats. This one offers a moral North Star, not a relationship manual. Its intent is aspirational, a way to yank readers out of transactional thinking: love isn't leverage, it's stewardship. The line endures because it tells you who you should be in a single breath, then leaves you to negotiate the consequences.
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| Topic | Love |
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"Love is when the other person's happiness is more important than your own." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-is-when-the-other-persons-happiness-is-more-146348/. Accessed 11 Feb. 2026.











