"Love seeks one thing only: the good of the one loved. It leaves all the other secondary effects to take care of themselves. Love, therefore, is its own reward"
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The subtext is a critique of transactional intimacy. Merton knew how easily love becomes a spiritualized form of consumerism: I give, therefore I deserve. By calling other outcomes "secondary effects", he demotes the usual trophies of love (gratitude, reciprocation, personal growth, even happiness) to side effects, not objectives. That is both bracing and risky: it refuses emotional bookkeeping, but it also forces a hard question about boundaries. If love is only the other's good, who decides what "good" is? Merton's answer, implied rather than stated, lives in his Catholic context: the good is not preference but flourishing, a moral reality you submit to, not a wish you project.
"Love, therefore, is its own reward" lands as an anti-incentive in an incentive-driven culture. The point isn't that love feels nice; it's that love is a practice whose payoff can't be cashed out into status or security. He's trying to free love from the hostage-taking of results - and in doing so, asking the reader to accept a frightening kind of moral adulthood.
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Merton, Thomas. (n.d.). Love seeks one thing only: the good of the one loved. It leaves all the other secondary effects to take care of themselves. Love, therefore, is its own reward. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-seeks-one-thing-only-the-good-of-the-one-2086/
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Merton, Thomas. "Love seeks one thing only: the good of the one loved. It leaves all the other secondary effects to take care of themselves. Love, therefore, is its own reward." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-seeks-one-thing-only-the-good-of-the-one-2086/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Love seeks one thing only: the good of the one loved. It leaves all the other secondary effects to take care of themselves. Love, therefore, is its own reward." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/love-seeks-one-thing-only-the-good-of-the-one-2086/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.












