"Man is always looking for someone to boast to; woman is always looking for a shoulder to put her head on"
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The intent isn’t to map gender faithfully so much as to puncture romantic pretensions and, in the same motion, reassert a hard-edged, early-20th-century cynicism about motive. Mencken loved stripping people down to appetites and vanity; here he treats masculinity as competitive display and femininity as a search for protection or consolation. The subtext is a double insult: men are insecure peacocks; women are dependents trained to convert emotion into dependence. It’s misanthropy with a gendered edge.
Context matters. Mencken wrote in an America enamored of “scientific” generalizations about sex roles and rattled by women’s increasing public power (suffrage, new labor patterns, modern courtship). The line reads like a corrective aimed at the era’s shifting script: you can change the laws, but, Mencken implies, you can’t change the wiring. Its durability comes from the sting of recognition - lots of people have seen these behaviors - and its blindness comes from treating social training as destiny.
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| Topic | Romantic |
|---|---|
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Mencken, H. L. (2026, January 18). Man is always looking for someone to boast to; woman is always looking for a shoulder to put her head on. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/man-is-always-looking-for-someone-to-boast-to-19525/
Chicago Style
Mencken, H. L. "Man is always looking for someone to boast to; woman is always looking for a shoulder to put her head on." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/man-is-always-looking-for-someone-to-boast-to-19525/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Man is always looking for someone to boast to; woman is always looking for a shoulder to put her head on." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/man-is-always-looking-for-someone-to-boast-to-19525/. Accessed 3 Feb. 2026.




