"Manage yourself first, and others will take your orders"
About this Quote
The line works because it sneaks discipline in through the back door of ego. It promises "orders" and compliance - a hard, almost military reward - but makes that reward contingent on something far less glamorous: self-regulation. The subtext is that people don't actually follow titles; they follow signals. Consistency, emotional control, and clarity are social cues that reduce uncertainty. When you display them, others don't feel managed, they feel safe enough to coordinate.
Seabury also hints at a psychological reciprocity: someone who can govern their impulses is less likely to govern others through fear, volatility, or neediness. That creates a different kind of leadership - not charisma-as-theater, but steadiness as credibility.
The context matters. In a time when psychology was selling the public on "character" and "adjustment", Seabury is packaging therapy-grade insight as practical command: if you want influence, start with the one person you can actually control. The sting is implicit: if people resist your orders, the problem may be your unmanaged self, not their disobedience.
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| Topic | Leadership |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Seabury, David. (2026, February 16). Manage yourself first, and others will take your orders. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/manage-yourself-first-and-others-will-take-your-141361/
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Seabury, David. "Manage yourself first, and others will take your orders." FixQuotes. February 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/manage-yourself-first-and-others-will-take-your-141361/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Manage yourself first, and others will take your orders." FixQuotes, 16 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/manage-yourself-first-and-others-will-take-your-141361/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.







