"Many kiss the hand they wish cut off"
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Polite submission has always been one of power’s favorite disguises, and Herbert nails that ugliness in eight words. “Many kiss the hand they wish cut off” is a proverb sharpened into a miniature moral trap: the gesture we associate with loyalty and reverence becomes evidence of suppressed rage. The line works because it forces two images to coexist in the same instant - lips on skin, a blade in the imagination. That collision exposes hypocrisy not as a personal quirk but as a survival tactic.
Herbert, a devotional poet writing in a rigidly hierarchical England, understood how obedience could be performed while resentment fermented underneath. Kissing a hand is not just affection; it’s ritualized deference, an admission of rank. To “wish [it] cut off” suggests the powerless fantasy of leveling the social order, even violently, while still needing access to its protections or patronage. The intent is less to condemn anger than to condemn the theater around it: the way institutions train people to translate fear and ambition into manners.
The subtext is painfully modern. Think workplace flattery masking contempt, politicians praising rivals they’d happily ruin, consumers celebrating brands they privately resent. Herbert isn’t offering a cynical hot take so much as a warning about what happens when public speech is policed: hostility doesn’t vanish; it goes underground, where it becomes sharper, stranger, and harder to dislodge. The proverb’s sting is its realism - it assumes duplicity is common, because dependence is.
Herbert, a devotional poet writing in a rigidly hierarchical England, understood how obedience could be performed while resentment fermented underneath. Kissing a hand is not just affection; it’s ritualized deference, an admission of rank. To “wish [it] cut off” suggests the powerless fantasy of leveling the social order, even violently, while still needing access to its protections or patronage. The intent is less to condemn anger than to condemn the theater around it: the way institutions train people to translate fear and ambition into manners.
The subtext is painfully modern. Think workplace flattery masking contempt, politicians praising rivals they’d happily ruin, consumers celebrating brands they privately resent. Herbert isn’t offering a cynical hot take so much as a warning about what happens when public speech is policed: hostility doesn’t vanish; it goes underground, where it becomes sharper, stranger, and harder to dislodge. The proverb’s sting is its realism - it assumes duplicity is common, because dependence is.
Quote Details
| Topic | Fake Friends |
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| Source | Aphorism in "Jacula Prudentum" (section of The Temple), George Herbert, first published 1633. |
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