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Creativity Quote by Marvin Gaye

"Marriage is miserable unless you find the right person that is your soulmate and that takes a lot of looking"

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Marvin Gaye’s line lands like a hard-earned confession from a man who made romance sound holy, then watched it turn sour in real life. “Marriage is miserable” is a blunt opener, almost anti-ballad, but he immediately adds a narrow escape hatch: the “right person,” the “soulmate.” That tension is the point. Gaye is both indicting the institution and admitting his own hunger for the ideal version of it. The sentence moves the way a relationship does: sweeping judgment, then a desperate qualification, then the exhausting work of “looking.”

The subtext is less cynicism than fatigue. “Soulmate” is the fantasy language of destiny, but “takes a lot of looking” drags it back into the marketplace of modern love - auditions, false starts, compromise. He’s puncturing the idea that marriage is automatically stabilizing; it’s only as good as the match, and the match is not guaranteed by vows, church, or social expectation. The misery isn’t presented as a moral failure, just a predictable outcome when people treat marriage as a finish line instead of a fit.

Context matters: Gaye’s catalog is full of yearning, devotion, and distrust, and his personal life carried public strain and private turbulence. So the quote reads like an artist revising the love script mid-song. It’s not romantic or anti-romantic; it’s romantic under duress - insisting that the dream might still exist, but you’re going to have to search for it with your eyes open.

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Marvin Gaye

Marvin Gaye (April 2, 1939 - April 1, 1984) was a Musician from USA.

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