Love Quote by Barbara de Angelis

De Angelis smuggles a self-help ethos into grammar, and it works because the move is both simple and disarming: if marriage is a noun, it’s a trophy; if it’s a verb, it’s labor. The line flips a cultural script that treats marriage as an achievement badge (proposal photos, wedding-industrial spectacle, tax-status romance) and reframes it as repetitive action. That little linguistic pivot carries a moral corrective: stop fetishizing the event, start interrogating the everyday.

The intent is pragmatic, almost corrective. De Angelis isn’t trying to romanticize marriage so much as demystify it. By insisting “It isn’t something you get,” she targets entitlement, the quiet assumption that a ring purchases permanence. The subtext is that many couples fail not because they lack love, but because they confuse love with a possession rather than a practice. “Do” implies effort and choice; “every day” implies boredom, routine, repair. It’s a gentle warning delivered as encouragement.

Context matters: de Angelis comes from the late-20th-century relationship-advice tradition that rose alongside no-fault divorce, therapy-speak entering the mainstream, and a growing recognition of emotional labor. Her phrasing speaks to readers who’ve seen marriages crack under modern pressures but still want the institution to mean something. The quote meets them where they are: not with vows or theology, but with behavior. It quietly democratizes commitment. You don’t need a perfect partner or a perfect ceremony; you need a daily willingness to act like you’re on the same team.