"Men are not against you; they are merely for themselves"
About this Quote
The phrasing matters. "Not against you" isn't praise, it's demotion: you are not the center of their plot. Then the pivot, "merely for themselves", lands with a clipped, almost consoling cynicism. "Merely" does double duty, shrinking the offense while enlarging the principle. It's not that others are uniquely selfish; it's that they are predictably, mundanely so. Fowler smuggles in a worldview where institutions and friendships alike are governed less by ideology than by incentives, reputation, and convenience.
The subtext is tactical: stop wasting energy on imagined enemies and start mapping interests. In Fowler's world, appeals to fairness rarely beat appeals to advantage. That doesn't excuse cruelty, but it explains why it so often arrives without malice. The line is a small instruction manual for adulthood: if you want cooperation, make it pay.
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| Topic | Wisdom |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Fowler, Gene. (2026, January 16). Men are not against you; they are merely for themselves. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/men-are-not-against-you-they-are-merely-for-135080/
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Fowler, Gene. "Men are not against you; they are merely for themselves." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/men-are-not-against-you-they-are-merely-for-135080/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Men are not against you; they are merely for themselves." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/men-are-not-against-you-they-are-merely-for-135080/. Accessed 18 Feb. 2026.










