"Men who want to support women in our struggle for freedom and justice should understand that it is not terrifically important to us that they learn to cry; it is important to us that they stop the crimes of violence against us"
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The phrasing is strategic. “Terrifically important” carries a faint, scalding sarcasm, like she’s mimicking the earnest workshop language of male allies who want credit for emotional literacy. Then she tightens the frame to “our struggle for freedom and justice,” making clear that this is a political movement, not a sensitivity seminar. The pivot to “crimes” is decisive: not “harm,” not “mistakes,” not “miscommunication,” but acts with perpetrators, patterns, and consequences. Violence isn’t framed as an unfortunate byproduct of patriarchy; it’s a central mechanism.
Context matters. Dworkin wrote amid late-20th-century feminist battles over pornography, sexual assault, domestic abuse, and the legal system’s chronic failure to protect women. Her work insisted that male dominance isn’t just cultural atmosphere; it’s enforced, often literally, through intimidation and injury. The subtext aimed at “supportive” men is bracing: if you want to help, stop centering your own transformation narrative. Put your social power where the danger is: intervene, hold other men accountable, back policies and institutions that actually reduce women’s exposure to violence.
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| Topic | Human Rights |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Dworkin, Andrea. (2026, January 16). Men who want to support women in our struggle for freedom and justice should understand that it is not terrifically important to us that they learn to cry; it is important to us that they stop the crimes of violence against us. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/men-who-want-to-support-women-in-our-struggle-for-138989/
Chicago Style
Dworkin, Andrea. "Men who want to support women in our struggle for freedom and justice should understand that it is not terrifically important to us that they learn to cry; it is important to us that they stop the crimes of violence against us." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/men-who-want-to-support-women-in-our-struggle-for-138989/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Men who want to support women in our struggle for freedom and justice should understand that it is not terrifically important to us that they learn to cry; it is important to us that they stop the crimes of violence against us." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/men-who-want-to-support-women-in-our-struggle-for-138989/. Accessed 24 Feb. 2026.

