"Men with secrets tend to be drawn to each other, not because they want to share what they know but because they need the company of the like-minded, the fellow afflicted"
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The line’s bite comes from its double refusal. These men don’t want to share what they know, and they don’t even want to be known. What they want is “company,” a word that normally implies warmth, recast here as a kind of camouflage. “Like-minded” suggests ideology or taste, but DeLillo twists it into complicity: a mental alignment built around what must stay unsaid. Then the kicker, “the fellow afflicted,” frames secrecy as illness, not power. It’s a subtle rebuke to the macho mythology of the lone keeper of dark knowledge. In DeLillo’s world, the secret doesn’t make you special; it makes you symptomatic.
Contextually, this tracks with his recurring obsession: networks of paranoia, clandestine institutions, men performing control while quietly undone by what they’re carrying. The subtext is that secrecy breeds its own communities - not to reveal truth, but to normalize the pressure of withholding it. Silence becomes a shared language, and that’s the real intimacy.
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| Topic | Friendship |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
DeLillo, Don. (2026, January 17). Men with secrets tend to be drawn to each other, not because they want to share what they know but because they need the company of the like-minded, the fellow afflicted. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/men-with-secrets-tend-to-be-drawn-to-each-other-52587/
Chicago Style
DeLillo, Don. "Men with secrets tend to be drawn to each other, not because they want to share what they know but because they need the company of the like-minded, the fellow afflicted." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/men-with-secrets-tend-to-be-drawn-to-each-other-52587/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Men with secrets tend to be drawn to each other, not because they want to share what they know but because they need the company of the like-minded, the fellow afflicted." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/men-with-secrets-tend-to-be-drawn-to-each-other-52587/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.









