"Morality is simply the attitude we adopt towards people whom we personally dislike"
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The subtext is less “ethics are fake” than “ethics are often convenient.” Wilde spotlights how quickly principles become permissions: dislike someone and suddenly you discover a new devotion to propriety, decency, standards. It’s a line aimed at Victorian respectability culture, where moral judgment doubled as class management and sexual policing. Wilde, eventually prosecuted for “gross indecency,” understood the machinery firsthand: society didn’t just disapprove; it moralized, turning prejudice into righteousness.
The phrasing “attitude we adopt” matters. Morality becomes performative - a posture, a costume - suggesting that judgment is less about what someone did than about who gets framed as deserving contempt. Wilde’s wit is doing serious work: it collapses the distance between the sermon and the sneer. The uncomfortable implication is that our strictest moral certainty may be a diagnostic tool, revealing not our values but our animus.
Quote Details
| Topic | Ethics & Morality |
|---|---|
| Source | Verified source: An Ideal Husband (Oscar Wilde, 1895)
Evidence: Do you know, Gertrude, I don’t mind your talking morality a bit. Morality is simply the attitude we adopt towards people whom we personally dislike. (Act II (no stable page number; varies by edition)). Primary source is Oscar Wilde’s play An Ideal Husband. In the text, the line is spoken by Mrs. Cheveley to Lady Chiltern in Act II. The play was first staged at the Theatre Royal, Haymarket, London on January 3, 1895, so the quote was spoken publicly at least by that date. The Project Gutenberg transcription reproduces the play text and shows the quote in Act II (search within the text for “Morality is simply”). ([gutenberg.org](https://www.gutenberg.org/files/885/885-h/885-h.htm)) Other candidates (1) IAS Mains General Studies Paper 4 Ethics Integrity & Apti... (Mohit Sharma, Sujit Kumar, Dr Priya G..., 2022) compilation95.0% ... Morality is simply the attitude we adopt towards people whom we personally dislike.” —. Moral. Convictions. as. E... |
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