"Morality is simply the attitude we adopt towards people whom we personally dislike"
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Wilde’s line is a dagger wrapped in a doily: it sounds like a bon mot, then leaves you wondering whether your ethics are just a well-tailored grudge. The genius is the bait-and-switch in “simply.” He doesn’t argue morality is complicated; he insists it’s suspiciously easy to summon when the target is someone we already want to condemn. In Wilde’s world, “morality” isn’t a neutral code but a social weapon - a way to launder personal distaste into public virtue.
The subtext is less “ethics are fake” than “ethics are often convenient.” Wilde spotlights how quickly principles become permissions: dislike someone and suddenly you discover a new devotion to propriety, decency, standards. It’s a line aimed at Victorian respectability culture, where moral judgment doubled as class management and sexual policing. Wilde, eventually prosecuted for “gross indecency,” understood the machinery firsthand: society didn’t just disapprove; it moralized, turning prejudice into righteousness.
The phrasing “attitude we adopt” matters. Morality becomes performative - a posture, a costume - suggesting that judgment is less about what someone did than about who gets framed as deserving contempt. Wilde’s wit is doing serious work: it collapses the distance between the sermon and the sneer. The uncomfortable implication is that our strictest moral certainty may be a diagnostic tool, revealing not our values but our animus.
The subtext is less “ethics are fake” than “ethics are often convenient.” Wilde spotlights how quickly principles become permissions: dislike someone and suddenly you discover a new devotion to propriety, decency, standards. It’s a line aimed at Victorian respectability culture, where moral judgment doubled as class management and sexual policing. Wilde, eventually prosecuted for “gross indecency,” understood the machinery firsthand: society didn’t just disapprove; it moralized, turning prejudice into righteousness.
The phrasing “attitude we adopt” matters. Morality becomes performative - a posture, a costume - suggesting that judgment is less about what someone did than about who gets framed as deserving contempt. Wilde’s wit is doing serious work: it collapses the distance between the sermon and the sneer. The uncomfortable implication is that our strictest moral certainty may be a diagnostic tool, revealing not our values but our animus.
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