"Most gentlemen don't like love, they just like to kick it around"
About this Quote
The subtext is classic Porter: sophistication with a hard edge, a cocktail of charm and disillusionment. As a composer who lived among the wealthy and the socially powerful - and as a gay man navigating an era when desire was policed and coded - Porter knew how “gentlemanly” ideals could mask appetite, cruelty, and boredom. The line doesn’t merely scold male callousness; it mocks the entire social script that lets men treat emotional intimacy as a sport while still collecting the cultural badge of decency.
Context matters because Porter wrote for worlds where romance was both currency and theater: Broadway, high society, and the witty, brittle milieu of interwar and mid-century America. In that environment, love is routinely staged, traded, and reviewed. This quip works because it compresses a whole sociology into a casual sneer: the refined man as emotional vandal, polishing his reputation while scuffing everyone else’s heart.
Quote Details
| Topic | Love |
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| Source | Song "Most Gentlemen Don't Like Love" (lyric line), Cole Porter; from the 1938 Broadway musical Leave It to Me! (published sheet music / original cast) |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Porter, Cole. (2026, January 17). Most gentlemen don't like love, they just like to kick it around. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/most-gentlemen-dont-like-love-they-just-like-to-67363/
Chicago Style
Porter, Cole. "Most gentlemen don't like love, they just like to kick it around." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/most-gentlemen-dont-like-love-they-just-like-to-67363/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Most gentlemen don't like love, they just like to kick it around." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/most-gentlemen-dont-like-love-they-just-like-to-67363/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.





