"Much violence is based on the illusion that life is a property to be defended and not to be shared"
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The intent here is pastoral but unsentimental. As a clergyman steeped in spiritual formation, Nouwen isn’t primarily diagnosing criminals; he’s interrogating the everyday mentality that makes violence thinkable: selfhood as possession, security as hoarding, identity as something that must be guarded from contamination. “Illusion” is doing the heavy lifting. He suggests the posture of defense isn’t merely excessive; it’s based on a fundamental misreading of what life is. Call life property and you’ve already accepted the world of walls, weapons, and preemptive strikes.
The subtext is also pointedly political, even if the language stays devotional. In the late 20th century, amid Cold War paranoia, rising consumerism, and culture-war boundary making, “defended” reads like a whole civic ethos: nations defending “ways of life,” families defending purity, institutions defending status. Nouwen counters with “shared,” a word that implies vulnerability, mutual dependence, and the scandalous idea that flourishing isn’t a zero-sum resource.
Rhetorically, the sentence works because it refuses melodrama. It’s calm, almost clinical, which makes the accusation harder to dismiss: violence isn’t an exception to our values; it’s the shadow those values cast when we worship ownership.
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| Topic | Peace |
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| Source | Later attribution: Wisdom for the Soul (Larry Chang, 2006) modern compilationISBN: 9780977339105 · ID: -T3QhPjIxhIC
Evidence: ... Much violence is based on the illusion that life is a property to be defended and not to be shared. ~ Henri Nouwen, 1932-1996 ~ You have to want to lose your appetite for violence or aggression. And to do that, you have to lose your ... Other candidates (1) Out of Solitude (Henri Nouwen, 1974)50.0% In solitude we discover that our life is not a possession to be defended, but a gift to be shared. (p. 12 in the text... |
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