"Music is like making love: either all or nothing"
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The subtext is a warning against the temptations of control. Classical musicians are trained to minimize error, to respect the score, to behave. Stern, famously unsentimental about empty virtuosity, is arguing that fidelity without vulnerability is its own kind of betrayal. “All” means surrendering to phrasing, timing, and dynamic risk even when it might crack; “nothing” is the bloodless execution that protects the ego but forfeits the encounter.
There’s also an old-world, midcentury masculinity baked into the metaphor: erotic mastery as a model for artistic mastery. Today that can read as swagger, even a little cringe, but the cultural logic remains legible: intimacy can’t be faked. Coming from a violinist who championed live performance and human warmth over studio polish, the quote is a manifesto against the era’s creeping professionalization. Stern isn’t romanticizing music; he’s insisting it’s an exchange. If you’re not willing to be exposed, don’t ask the audience to meet you there.
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| Topic | Music |
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Stern, Isaac. (2026, January 16). Music is like making love: either all or nothing. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/music-is-like-making-love-either-all-or-nothing-137136/
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Stern, Isaac. "Music is like making love: either all or nothing." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/music-is-like-making-love-either-all-or-nothing-137136/.
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"Music is like making love: either all or nothing." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/music-is-like-making-love-either-all-or-nothing-137136/. Accessed 16 Feb. 2026.






