"My best male friend is my best friend until he crosses me. We're all protective of the self"
About this Quote
LaBute, as a director and playwright, has built a career on social cruelty performed with a straight face: men trading intimacy for dominance, moral talk masking appetite, relationships treated as auditions for power. Read in that context, "best male friend" is not an innocent detail. It signals the particular code of male friendship - competitiveness, hierarchy, the unspoken scoreboard. "Crosses me" is intentionally vague, a phrase that can mean anything from a real ethical violation to a perceived slight. That ambiguity matters because it exposes how quickly "principle" can become a justification for retaliation.
The quote's intent isn't to offer wisdom; it's to puncture sentimentality. It suggests that closeness is conditional, and that the self is the true protagonist in most human stories. Friendship survives as long as it doesn't challenge the narrator's sovereignty. The chill comes from how ordinary it sounds - like something you'd say without realizing you've admitted the whole problem.
Quote Details
| Topic | Broken Friendship |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
LaBute, Neil. (2026, January 15). My best male friend is my best friend until he crosses me. We're all protective of the self. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-best-male-friend-is-my-best-friend-until-he-147790/
Chicago Style
LaBute, Neil. "My best male friend is my best friend until he crosses me. We're all protective of the self." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-best-male-friend-is-my-best-friend-until-he-147790/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"My best male friend is my best friend until he crosses me. We're all protective of the self." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-best-male-friend-is-my-best-friend-until-he-147790/. Accessed 10 Feb. 2026.









