"My biggest problem in middle school was catty girls, cliques, and trying to figure out if I wanted to be a part of one of those, just figuring out who I was and all that"
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The phrase “trying to figure out if I wanted to be a part of one of those” carries the real tension. Cliques aren’t just friend groups; they’re identity packages with rules, language, and reputational protection. Shaw’s subtext is that adolescence forces you to audition for versions of yourself while everyone else is casting. You’re not only choosing friends; you’re choosing what kind of girlhood is considered safe, desirable, or “normal” in that hallway ecosystem.
As an actress, Shaw’s perspective also taps into the cultural script we keep replaying in teen TV: the cafeteria map, the queen bee mythology, the idea that social status is a currency you either chase or pretend not to need. Her wording (“who I was and all that”) undercuts the melodrama with a shrug, which is precisely the point. Identity formation is rarely eloquent in real time; it’s messy, negotiated, and often shaped by the fear of being alone at lunch.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Shaw, Lindsey. (2026, January 16). My biggest problem in middle school was catty girls, cliques, and trying to figure out if I wanted to be a part of one of those, just figuring out who I was and all that. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-biggest-problem-in-middle-school-was-catty-99237/
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Shaw, Lindsey. "My biggest problem in middle school was catty girls, cliques, and trying to figure out if I wanted to be a part of one of those, just figuring out who I was and all that." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-biggest-problem-in-middle-school-was-catty-99237/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"My biggest problem in middle school was catty girls, cliques, and trying to figure out if I wanted to be a part of one of those, just figuring out who I was and all that." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-biggest-problem-in-middle-school-was-catty-99237/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.







