"My boyfriend calls me 'princess', but I think of myself more along the lines of 'monkey' and 'retard'"
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The subtext is about control. “Princess” is affectionate, but it also boxes her into a narrow, ornamental identity that celebrity culture loves to hand actresses. By countering with “monkey,” she claims a body that climbs, fidgets, makes faces, has appetites. It’s a comic way to reject the male gaze’s preferred silhouette. At the same time, the self-insult signals how celebrity can train women to preempt criticism: if she calls herself something harsh first, no interviewer or tabloid can “reveal” it.
The context matters: Silverstone’s 1990s fame was built on a high-gloss image (Aerosmith videos, Clueless-era stardom) that begged for twee nicknames and manicured narratives. Her joke reads like a pressure valve releasing that packaging. The problem, now, is the casual ableist slur. What once passed as edgy self-deprecation plays differently in a culture more alert to who gets hurt when “I’m a mess” borrows the language used to dehumanize others. The quote shows a star trying to wriggle out of a pedestal, choosing barbs that turned out to have collateral damage.
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| Topic | Romantic |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Silverstone, Alicia. (2026, January 15). My boyfriend calls me 'princess', but I think of myself more along the lines of 'monkey' and 'retard'. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-boyfriend-calls-me-princess-but-i-think-of-128732/
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Silverstone, Alicia. "My boyfriend calls me 'princess', but I think of myself more along the lines of 'monkey' and 'retard'." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-boyfriend-calls-me-princess-but-i-think-of-128732/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"My boyfriend calls me 'princess', but I think of myself more along the lines of 'monkey' and 'retard'." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-boyfriend-calls-me-princess-but-i-think-of-128732/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.











