"My family and I held no hatred for those people because we realized they were victims of their own ignorance"
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White’s phrasing is doing two jobs at once. “My family and I” widens the frame from individual saintliness to a practiced, collective stance: this isn’t a solitary act of moral heroics, it’s survival strategy and public message. Then the pivot: no hatred, not because the harm was small, but because he recasts the perpetrators as “victims.” That’s the radical move. He strips them of the dignity of being rational actors and hands them a harsher label: ignorant, trapped inside bad information and worse social scripts. It’s compassion with teeth.
The subtext is political. By refusing hatred, he denies the culture-war spectacle that would have made him easier to dismiss as “angry” or “contagious” in another way. He offers Americans an off-ramp: you can change without being branded irredeemable. At the same time, he quietly indicts the systems that manufactured that ignorance - media sensationalism, moralized health education, the era’s stigma around sexuality and disease.
The line works because it’s emotionally restrained but strategically generous: it invites accountability without escalating the panic that endangered him in the first place.
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|---|---|
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