"My father used to say superior people never make long visits"
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The intent is less about literal visiting etiquette than about a whole moral aesthetic: restraint as virtue, distance as refinement. “Superior” is the provocation. The word smuggles hierarchy into something that might otherwise sound like simple good manners. It implies that lingering is a kind of neediness, that taking up space (and time, and attention) is faintly indecent. The “long visit” becomes a metaphor for excess: emotional, conversational, even artistic. Knowing when to leave is cast as a sign of intelligence and self-command.
Moore wrote in an era where social codes were both strict and suffocating, especially for women. The line captures that tightrope: be engaged but not demanding; be present but not consuming. It also echoes her poetic sensibility. Moore’s work is famous for precision, compression, the disciplined cut. The subtext: the superior person edits themselves in real time.
There’s wit in how the sentence flatters and disciplines at once. It offers the reader an aspirational identity (“superior”) while issuing a warning: stay too long, and you’ve revealed your rank.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Moore, Marianne. (2026, January 17). My father used to say superior people never make long visits. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-father-used-to-say-superior-people-never-make-55994/
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Moore, Marianne. "My father used to say superior people never make long visits." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-father-used-to-say-superior-people-never-make-55994/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"My father used to say superior people never make long visits." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-father-used-to-say-superior-people-never-make-55994/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.






