"My father was afraid of his father, I was afraid of my father, and I don't see why my children shouldn't be afraid of me"
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Coming from a soldier - and a patrician one - the intent reads as both confession and defense. He’s not bragging about cruelty so much as normalizing it, insisting that hierarchy is natural because it’s familiar. The subtext is the oldest argument for authoritarian order: I suffered it, therefore it must be necessary. That’s the psychological sleight of hand that makes the remark sting. It reframes trauma as training, and it calls that reframing maturity.
The context matters: Mountbatten belonged to a world where command-and-control wasn’t just a management style, it was a moral architecture. In elite British institutions and military culture, fear often got repackaged as discipline, character, respect. The line exposes how easily those words can become euphemisms - how “respect” can mean compliance, and “strong fatherhood” can mean unchallenged sovereignty at home.
What makes it work, rhetorically, is its bluntness. No sentimentality, no apology, just the unexamined logic of continuity. That’s exactly the point - and exactly the indictment.
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Mountbatten, Lord. (2026, January 15). My father was afraid of his father, I was afraid of my father, and I don't see why my children shouldn't be afraid of me. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-father-was-afraid-of-his-father-i-was-afraid-99255/
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Mountbatten, Lord. "My father was afraid of his father, I was afraid of my father, and I don't see why my children shouldn't be afraid of me." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-father-was-afraid-of-his-father-i-was-afraid-99255/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"My father was afraid of his father, I was afraid of my father, and I don't see why my children shouldn't be afraid of me." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-father-was-afraid-of-his-father-i-was-afraid-99255/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.







