"My father worked hard, but we were still very poor; and I didn't want anybody arguing about money, so I became the entertainer - the one who wanted everyone to be happy. I didn't want there to be any problems"
About this Quote
The subtext is the origin story of the “pleaser” as a professional identity. “I didn’t want anybody arguing” sounds childlike, but it’s also strategic: she’s describing a role children often adopt in stressed families, the one who stabilizes the room by being bright, funny, agreeable. In her telling, joy isn’t spontaneous; it’s labor. And it’s labor with a cost: if your job is to make “everyone” happy, your own unhappiness can’t have a place to land.
Context matters because Ross’s rise comes through Motown, an industry built on polish, composure, and crossover palatability - Black artistry packaged to move through hostile mainstream spaces. Her “no problems” instinct echoes that ethic: control the vibe, smooth the edges, keep it clean enough to be welcomed. The quote quietly reveals the bargain behind iconic glamour: the smile isn’t a mask you put on for the stage; it’s a tool you learned to use at home, when stakes felt higher than a bad review.
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| Topic | Father |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Ross, Diana. (2026, January 17). My father worked hard, but we were still very poor; and I didn't want anybody arguing about money, so I became the entertainer - the one who wanted everyone to be happy. I didn't want there to be any problems. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-father-worked-hard-but-we-were-still-very-poor-41552/
Chicago Style
Ross, Diana. "My father worked hard, but we were still very poor; and I didn't want anybody arguing about money, so I became the entertainer - the one who wanted everyone to be happy. I didn't want there to be any problems." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-father-worked-hard-but-we-were-still-very-poor-41552/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"My father worked hard, but we were still very poor; and I didn't want anybody arguing about money, so I became the entertainer - the one who wanted everyone to be happy. I didn't want there to be any problems." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-father-worked-hard-but-we-were-still-very-poor-41552/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.





