"My friend had a funny remark; he told me everybody has something - some people have a big butt, some people are insecure and at least you know what it is, even if it's a lump on your head. I know I have a lump on my head"
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The friend’s “funny remark” is doing cultural work. It collapses the hierarchy between the visible and the invisible: a “big butt” (public, policed, laughed at) sits beside insecurity (private, socially contagious) as equivalent burdens. That’s the subtextual move: she’s mocking the way we treat some flaws as punchlines and others as tragedies, when they’re all just variations on being human in public.
Then Duffy lands on the oddly specific “lump on your head,” a metaphor that’s blunt enough to feel literal. The point isn’t the lump itself; it’s the relief of clarity. Knowing your thing, even if it’s unglamorous, beats the exhausting ambiguity of pretending you don’t have one. There’s also a performer’s pragmatism here: in an image-driven industry, admitting imperfection before the audience can weaponize it is a form of control.
The intent reads as preemptive honesty, but also as a small rebellion against curated confidence. She makes room for awkwardness, turning self-deprecation into a low-stakes philosophy: you don’t need to be flawless, just self-aware enough to stop hiding the evidence.
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| Topic | Funny Friendship |
|---|---|
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Duffy, Karen. (2026, January 15). My friend had a funny remark; he told me everybody has something - some people have a big butt, some people are insecure and at least you know what it is, even if it's a lump on your head. I know I have a lump on my head. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-friend-had-a-funny-remark-he-told-me-everybody-165301/
Chicago Style
Duffy, Karen. "My friend had a funny remark; he told me everybody has something - some people have a big butt, some people are insecure and at least you know what it is, even if it's a lump on your head. I know I have a lump on my head." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-friend-had-a-funny-remark-he-told-me-everybody-165301/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"My friend had a funny remark; he told me everybody has something - some people have a big butt, some people are insecure and at least you know what it is, even if it's a lump on your head. I know I have a lump on my head." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-friend-had-a-funny-remark-he-told-me-everybody-165301/. Accessed 4 Feb. 2026.




