"My mother moved abroad when I was 11, my dad wasn't around from the time that I was a baby, so I was not the product of a family, but a product of observation - of watching what went on around me, of watching who I liked, what I didn't like, what I thought was good behavior and what I thought was bad behavior and tailoring myself accordingly"
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The subtext is a survival lesson dressed as self-knowledge. When the people who are supposed to model you disappear, you become hyper-attuned to everyone else’s cues. You scan for approval, danger, belonging. You learn social choreography fast because the cost of misreading a situation is loneliness. Strong’s list - who I liked, what I didn’t like, good behavior, bad behavior - sounds simple, but it implies a child building a moral and emotional compass from scraps, patching together a workable self from the ambient culture.
Contextually, it’s also an actor explaining his instrument without glamour. Acting is, at its core, calibrated attention: noticing micro-behaviors, mapping motivations, choosing which version of yourself to present. Strong suggests that this wasn’t an artistic choice at first; it was an adaptive one. The line lands because it reframes “identity” as something less authentic and more strategic - not a betrayal of the self, but the way a self can be made when no one hands you a template.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Strong, Mark. (2026, January 16). My mother moved abroad when I was 11, my dad wasn't around from the time that I was a baby, so I was not the product of a family, but a product of observation - of watching what went on around me, of watching who I liked, what I didn't like, what I thought was good behavior and what I thought was bad behavior and tailoring myself accordingly. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-mother-moved-abroad-when-i-was-11-my-dad-wasnt-115100/
Chicago Style
Strong, Mark. "My mother moved abroad when I was 11, my dad wasn't around from the time that I was a baby, so I was not the product of a family, but a product of observation - of watching what went on around me, of watching who I liked, what I didn't like, what I thought was good behavior and what I thought was bad behavior and tailoring myself accordingly." FixQuotes. January 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-mother-moved-abroad-when-i-was-11-my-dad-wasnt-115100/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"My mother moved abroad when I was 11, my dad wasn't around from the time that I was a baby, so I was not the product of a family, but a product of observation - of watching what went on around me, of watching who I liked, what I didn't like, what I thought was good behavior and what I thought was bad behavior and tailoring myself accordingly." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-mother-moved-abroad-when-i-was-11-my-dad-wasnt-115100/. Accessed 6 Feb. 2026.




