"My security comes from my senses, my sensing the direction I should go, and suddenly I felt out of tune, out of step with what other people wanted or what other people expected of me"
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Then comes the slip: “suddenly I felt out of tune, out of step.” That musical phrasing doesn’t just describe discomfort; it suggests she’s being asked to perform in a key that isn’t hers. Novak isn’t announcing rebellion with a clenched fist. She’s describing a subtler fracture: the moment when the role other people wrote for you stops fitting, and your body registers the lie before your career can admit it.
The line widens into an indictment without turning preachy: “what other people wanted or what other people expected of me.” Wants are transactional; expectations are structural. Novak names both, implying a life lived under dual pressures - immediate demands and long-term mythology. The cultural context is crucial: an era that sold women as fantasies and punished them for acting like real people. Her intent is to justify departure, privacy, and self-definition - not as indulgence, but as alignment. When she says “security,” she’s talking about the only stable thing in an unstable industry: the ability to hear yourself over the crowd.
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Novak, Kim. (2026, February 16). My security comes from my senses, my sensing the direction I should go, and suddenly I felt out of tune, out of step with what other people wanted or what other people expected of me. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-security-comes-from-my-senses-my-sensing-the-158844/
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Novak, Kim. "My security comes from my senses, my sensing the direction I should go, and suddenly I felt out of tune, out of step with what other people wanted or what other people expected of me." FixQuotes. February 16, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-security-comes-from-my-senses-my-sensing-the-158844/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"My security comes from my senses, my sensing the direction I should go, and suddenly I felt out of tune, out of step with what other people wanted or what other people expected of me." FixQuotes, 16 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-security-comes-from-my-senses-my-sensing-the-158844/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.





