"My wife - to-be and I went to see my father. Only he could answer the two questions before us: Shall we get married now? Shall I begin the practice of law, or continue being the successful wine salesman I had become, working my way through law school?"
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The detail that he is a "successful wine salesman" is the quote's quiet engine. It undercuts the myth that professional destiny is a straight line. Celler has a real, working-class-adjacent competence in his pocket, not an abstract fallback. Yet he still treats law as the presumptive endpoint, and his father as the gatekeeper who can bless the risk of trading proven success for credentialed prestige. The subtext is immigrant-era ambition without the sentimental gloss: upward mobility is desirable, but it is also supervised, policed by family expectations and the fear of squandering a hard-won foothold.
"Only he could answer" lands with a politician's instinct for power. Celler isn't describing his father's wisdom so much as naming a family hierarchy where decisions are ratified from above. The to-be wife is present but grammatically sidelined, a reminder that even intimate choices were often routed through patriarchal approval. In a few sentences, Celler sketches the old American bargain: love can wait, work must be respectable, and the future requires a signature from the past.
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Celler, Emanuel. (2026, January 17). My wife - to-be and I went to see my father. Only he could answer the two questions before us: Shall we get married now? Shall I begin the practice of law, or continue being the successful wine salesman I had become, working my way through law school? FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-wife-to-be-and-i-went-to-see-my-father-only-46184/
Chicago Style
Celler, Emanuel. "My wife - to-be and I went to see my father. Only he could answer the two questions before us: Shall we get married now? Shall I begin the practice of law, or continue being the successful wine salesman I had become, working my way through law school?" FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-wife-to-be-and-i-went-to-see-my-father-only-46184/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"My wife - to-be and I went to see my father. Only he could answer the two questions before us: Shall we get married now? Shall I begin the practice of law, or continue being the successful wine salesman I had become, working my way through law school?" FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/my-wife-to-be-and-i-went-to-see-my-father-only-46184/. Accessed 5 Feb. 2026.






