"Never expect people to treat you any better than you treat yourself"
About this Quote
The subtext is more interesting, and more controversial. “Treat yourself” doesn’t just mean self-esteem in the mirror; it means the daily, observable behaviors that others can exploit or honor: the hours you give away, the apologies you lead with, the standards you quietly drop. Bennett’s framing assumes people are, at minimum, adaptive. They respond to cues. In office politics, dating, even friendships, that’s often true: what you accept becomes the baseline.
But the line also smuggles in a hard-edged moral logic that can curdle into blame. It implies that poor treatment is, if not deserved, at least invited. That skips past power dynamics, trauma, and environments where disrespect is structural rather than negotiated. A bad boss doesn’t always need your “low self-treatment” as permission; they have the leverage.
Still, the quote works because it’s actionable. It doesn’t ask you to decode other people’s motives; it asks you to change your own inputs: boundaries, self-care, the willingness to walk away. In a culture allergic to dependency and obsessed with agency, it’s a tight, shareable sentence that makes self-respect sound like strategy.
Quote Details
| Topic | Self-Love |
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| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Bennett, Bo. (2026, January 15). Never expect people to treat you any better than you treat yourself. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/never-expect-people-to-treat-you-any-better-than-50195/
Chicago Style
Bennett, Bo. "Never expect people to treat you any better than you treat yourself." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/never-expect-people-to-treat-you-any-better-than-50195/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Never expect people to treat you any better than you treat yourself." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/never-expect-people-to-treat-you-any-better-than-50195/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.








