"Never go on trips with anyone you do not love"
About this Quote
The subtext is classic Hemingway: sentiment, but with the word “love” doing heavy lifting precisely because he rarely lingers in it. Love here isn’t romance as mood; it’s endurance as a verb. It means you can stomach someone’s bad sleep, their panic when the train is missed, their stubbornness with directions, their selfishness when hungry. It’s a standard of grace under pressure, exported from his bullrings and battlefields into the mundane wars of tourism.
Context matters: Hemingway was a compulsive mover through Paris, Pamplona, Key West, Cuba, and war zones, and his personal life was famously turbulent. He knew how quickly camaraderie curdles when the weather turns, the cash runs low, or the ego takes the wheel. The line is protective advice, but also a confession: travel doesn’t create character so much as reveal what you’ve been politely ignoring.
Quote Details
| Topic | Love |
|---|---|
| Source | Verified source: A Moveable Feast (Ernest Hemingway, 1964)
Evidence: “I learned one thing.” “What?” “Never to go on trips with anyone you do not love.”. The earliest traceable PRIMARY publication is Hemingway’s posthumously published memoir A Moveable Feast (first published 1964). Many quote sites paraphrase it as “Never go on trips with anyone you do not love,” but the wording commonly shown in excerpt/quotation contexts is “Never to go on trips…”. I was not able (from accessible primary-source scans/previews in this search pass) to verify the exact page number or the specific chapter name in the 1964 first edition; page numbers vary by edition (e.g., later ‘restored’ editions). A secondary blog specifically claims the line appears on page 175 (edition unspecified), which is not reliable enough to treat as verified pagination. Other candidates (1) Quotes: The Famous and Not so Famous (Terence M. Dorn Ph.D., 2021) compilation95.0% ... Ernest Hemingway Always do sober what you said you'd do drunk . That will teach you to keep your mouth shut . — E... |
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"Never go on trips with anyone you do not love." FixQuotes, 28 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/never-go-on-trips-with-anyone-you-do-not-love-19413/. Accessed 28 Feb. 2026.






