"No seriously... when there's families, you tend to go back to your room after the gig rather than go for a drink with the other guys. But there's always someone who's got something going, like the tour manager"
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Collins drops the myth of rock camaraderie with a shrug and a punchline. The opening, "No seriously...", is doing quiet work: it’s a preemptive defense against the expectation that touring is perpetual afterparty. He’s not selling a glamorous anecdote; he’s insisting on the unglamorous reality, which is exactly why it lands. The sentence is structured like a small confession, the kind artists make once they’ve aged out of performing for the room.
The core observation is domestic gravity. "When there's families" isn’t sentimental; it’s logistical. Parenthood doesn’t just change your priorities, it changes your energy budget and your tolerance for what used to pass as bonding. The intimacy of "go back to your room" undercuts the communal fantasy of the band as a substitute family. It’s a portrait of isolation inside a very public job: you can be surrounded by people and still be essentially off-duty.
Then Collins pivots to the pressure valve: "there's always someone who's got something going". The phrase is deliberately vague, a wink that avoids moralizing while acknowledging the ecosystem touring creates: boredom, access, and routine. The kicker, "like the tour manager", is classic Collins humor - not cruel, just deadpan. It widens the frame beyond "the guys" and punctures the idea that only performers are living the stereotype. Everyone on the road has a role; someone will always fill the social space you vacate.
Underneath, there’s a gentle demystification of fame: the real divide isn’t celebrity versus normal life, it’s responsibility versus escape.
The core observation is domestic gravity. "When there's families" isn’t sentimental; it’s logistical. Parenthood doesn’t just change your priorities, it changes your energy budget and your tolerance for what used to pass as bonding. The intimacy of "go back to your room" undercuts the communal fantasy of the band as a substitute family. It’s a portrait of isolation inside a very public job: you can be surrounded by people and still be essentially off-duty.
Then Collins pivots to the pressure valve: "there's always someone who's got something going". The phrase is deliberately vague, a wink that avoids moralizing while acknowledging the ecosystem touring creates: boredom, access, and routine. The kicker, "like the tour manager", is classic Collins humor - not cruel, just deadpan. It widens the frame beyond "the guys" and punctures the idea that only performers are living the stereotype. Everyone on the road has a role; someone will always fill the social space you vacate.
Underneath, there’s a gentle demystification of fame: the real divide isn’t celebrity versus normal life, it’s responsibility versus escape.
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| Topic | Work-Life Balance |
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