"Not everyone can be trusted. I think we all have to be very selective about the people we trust"
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Trust, in Shelley Long's telling, isn't a warm fuzzy virtue; it's a casting decision. The line carries the pragmatic chill of someone who’s watched charm get mistaken for character and learned how quickly “nice” can become leverage. Coming from an actress whose career played out in the public glare of Hollywood mythology, it reads less like paranoia and more like occupational wisdom: in industries built on relationships, access is currency, and people don’t always announce what they’re buying.
The intent is protective, but not closed-off. Long isn’t arguing for suspicion as a lifestyle; she’s arguing for standards. “Not everyone can be trusted” refuses the social pressure to treat openness as moral superiority. The follow-up - “we all have to be very selective” - shifts from personal hurt to collective strategy, implying this isn’t a private wound but a shared modern condition. That “we all” matters: it’s a softening move that invites agreement instead of pity.
The subtext is about boundaries, especially for people who are publicly legible and privately vulnerable. Selectivity becomes a form of self-respect, a way to keep your inner life from becoming someone else’s anecdote, headline, or bargaining chip. In a culture that treats oversharing as authenticity and proximity to fame as entitlement, Long’s line lands as a quiet refusal: you can be generous without being available, and you can be kind without being naive.
The intent is protective, but not closed-off. Long isn’t arguing for suspicion as a lifestyle; she’s arguing for standards. “Not everyone can be trusted” refuses the social pressure to treat openness as moral superiority. The follow-up - “we all have to be very selective” - shifts from personal hurt to collective strategy, implying this isn’t a private wound but a shared modern condition. That “we all” matters: it’s a softening move that invites agreement instead of pity.
The subtext is about boundaries, especially for people who are publicly legible and privately vulnerable. Selectivity becomes a form of self-respect, a way to keep your inner life from becoming someone else’s anecdote, headline, or bargaining chip. In a culture that treats oversharing as authenticity and proximity to fame as entitlement, Long’s line lands as a quiet refusal: you can be generous without being available, and you can be kind without being naive.
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| Topic | Fake Friends |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
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