"Nothing is so threatening to conventional values as a man who does not want to work or does not want to work at a challenging job, and most people are disturbed if a man in a well- paying job indicates ambivalence or dislike toward it"
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Her most cutting move is shifting from unemployment to ambivalence. Not wanting to work at all is easy to stigmatize; it lets society keep the story clean. But a man in a well-paying job who admits he hates it punctures the fantasy that compensation equals meaning. If money can’t buy consent, then the entire bargain looks less like opportunity and more like a discipline system: endure the grind, and you’re rewarded with legitimacy.
Rossi’s sociological context matters: she wrote in an era when masculinity was tightly tethered to breadwinning and when women’s paid labor was often treated as optional, supplementary, or suspect. That gender asymmetry makes the quote sharper. The “disturbance” she describes isn’t personal irritation; it’s anxiety that the hierarchy might be arbitrary. If a man can shrug off the challenge-job ideal, then work stops functioning as a moral sorting hat, and conventional values lose their best instrument for keeping people in line.
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Rossi, Alice S. (2026, January 17). Nothing is so threatening to conventional values as a man who does not want to work or does not want to work at a challenging job, and most people are disturbed if a man in a well- paying job indicates ambivalence or dislike toward it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/nothing-is-so-threatening-to-conventional-values-69448/
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Rossi, Alice S. "Nothing is so threatening to conventional values as a man who does not want to work or does not want to work at a challenging job, and most people are disturbed if a man in a well- paying job indicates ambivalence or dislike toward it." FixQuotes. January 17, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/nothing-is-so-threatening-to-conventional-values-69448/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Nothing is so threatening to conventional values as a man who does not want to work or does not want to work at a challenging job, and most people are disturbed if a man in a well- paying job indicates ambivalence or dislike toward it." FixQuotes, 17 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/nothing-is-so-threatening-to-conventional-values-69448/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.











