Life & Wisdom Quote by Thomas Nelson Page

It lands with the neat cruelty of a drawing-room verdict: “Old maids” aren’t just unmarried women, they’re framed as a type, a social irritant, someone who “does not mind” being inconvenient. Page’s line isn’t trying to understand a person so much as police a role. The phrase “giving people trouble” makes female independence sound like a petty hobby, as if refusing the expected script (marry, soften, serve) is itself an act of aggression.

The intent is less observation than reassurance to the audience that already buys the stereotype. By turning unmarried women into a predictable nuisance, the quote offers an easy explanation for discomfort: if she’s difficult, it’s because she’s an “old maid,” not because the rules are narrow or the community is unkind. It’s a social alibi.

Context matters. Page wrote in a late-19th- and early-20th-century Anglo-American world where women’s social legitimacy was tightly tethered to marriage, and “old maid” was a public label with economic and moral implications. Spinsterhood could mean marginalization; irritation was one of the few forms of agency left. Read that way, “does not mind” accidentally hints at something sharper: the possibility that she has stopped performing likability for people who have already dismissed her.

The line works because it pretends to be commonsense, a little proverb you can repeat without owning the bias. Its real function is to keep women anxiously agreeable by holding up a cautionary figure: inconvenience becomes a character flaw, and compliance becomes the only path to being considered “easy.”