"One can be very happy without demanding that others agree with them"
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The intent is almost anti-evangelical. Gershwin isn’t arguing for isolation or indifference, he’s puncturing the modern itch to turn every preference into a referendum. In a culture where taste gets moralized (your music, your politics, your diet, your identity markers), he’s sketching a quieter freedom: your inner life can be legitimate without becoming a recruitment drive.
The subtext is about control. Demanding agreement is a bid to stabilize the world, to make your feelings “safe” by making them shared. Gershwin suggests the opposite: happiness has better odds when it’s less conditional. That’s a deeply pragmatic, show-business wisdom from someone who lived around applause for a living. If you build your emotional house on other people’s reactions, you’re basically renting.
Context matters: Gershwin wrote in an era when mass culture was exploding, when radio, Broadway, and Hollywood were teaching Americans to sync up their tastes. His line is a soft rebellion against that synchronization. It’s also a sly artist’s defense of subjectivity: the best songs don’t ask permission; they invite you in.
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Gershwin, Ira. (2026, January 15). One can be very happy without demanding that others agree with them. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/one-can-be-very-happy-without-demanding-that-162133/
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Gershwin, Ira. "One can be very happy without demanding that others agree with them." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/one-can-be-very-happy-without-demanding-that-162133/.
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"One can be very happy without demanding that others agree with them." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/one-can-be-very-happy-without-demanding-that-162133/. Accessed 13 Feb. 2026.












