"One must choose in life between boredom and suffering"
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The craft is in the bluntness. No romance of hardship, no promise of redemption, just a clear-eyed admission that intensity has a price. De Stael was a salon power and a Napoleonic irritant, repeatedly pushed to the margins for refusing to keep her opinions private. Her own biography turns the quote into a credo: if you insist on a vivid life, the bill arrives in public punishment and private turmoil; if you want to avoid the bill, you accept a numbing quiet.
The subtext is a rebuke to complacency disguised as practicality. Choosing boredom is choosing the social contract as sedation. Choosing suffering is choosing agency, with all the anxiety that comes with it. She makes the reader complicit: neutrality isn’t neutral, it’s a decision.
Quote Details
| Topic | Meaning of Life |
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| Source | Later attribution: Imperial Boredom (Jeffrey A. Auerbach, 2018) modern compilationISBN: 9780192562319 · ID: JThxDwAAQBAJ
Evidence:
... Madame de Staël is reported to have said that “One must choose in life between boredom and suffering.” In the imperial context, however, boredom and suffering were directly related. There was misery from the heat and dust and rain ... |
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