"One of the things about equality is not just that you be treated equally to a man, but that you treat yourself equally to the way you treat a man"
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Thomas, coming up through mid-century entertainment and then becoming a prominent voice in feminist pop culture, understands how inequality often survives as etiquette. It's not always the blunt denial of opportunity; it's the daily choreography of deference: apologizing before speaking, downplaying ambition, calling confidence "arrogance" when it shows up in a female body. Her sentence is built like a mirror. It forces the listener to notice the double standard that lives in tone, posture, and self-talk - the soft power rules that women are trained to follow long before any official discrimination kicks in.
There's also a strategic intent here: to move feminism from policy to practice without letting it become self-help fluff. "Treat yourself equally" isn't a private affirmation; it's a political act because it changes how you negotiate pay, credit, boundaries, even the right to take up space. Thomas is asking for equality not as a permission slip, but as a discipline - one that starts where culture hides its most stubborn inequalities: inside the person who's been taught to doubt.
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"One of the things about equality is not just that you be treated equally to a man, but that you treat yourself equally to the way you treat a man." FixQuotes, 16 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/one-of-the-things-about-equality-is-not-just-that-115103/. Accessed 15 Feb. 2026.












