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Time & Perspective Quote by Aimee Mann

"One of the things I've really gotten past in the last couple of years is the idea of being made uncomfortable by the way things appear, rather than how things are. Clearly in this business you have to contend with a lot of that"

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Mann is naming a particular kind of maturity that doesn’t feel like triumph so much as abrasion: learning to stop flinching at optics. The line’s power comes from how she frames “uncomfortable” as a trap door. Discomfort isn’t treated as moral insight or artistic sensitivity; it’s an involuntary reaction to appearances, the social packaging of a situation. She’s describing a recalibration from image-management to reality-testing, from reading the room to reading the facts.

The subtext is industry-literate and a little weary. “In this business” is shorthand for a world where perception is currency: publicity narratives, the gendered policing of “likability,” the expectation that a woman’s confidence be palatable, the constant audition for someone else’s version of authenticity. Mann’s career has unfolded in a pop ecosystem that rewards surfaces while punishing people for acknowledging the machinery behind them. So “things appear” isn’t just Instagram gloss; it’s the way motives get edited, conflicts get spun, and creative decisions get translated into brand behavior.

What makes the quote work is its understated defiance. She doesn’t announce a manifesto. She quietly describes a psychological shift: refusing to let the embarrassment of how something looks overrule the truth of what it is. That’s both a coping strategy and an artistic ethic. For a songwriter known for clear-eyed narratives and emotional precision, it’s also a statement about staying tethered to the real story even when the industry insists the story should look better.

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Mann, Aimee. (n.d.). One of the things I've really gotten past in the last couple of years is the idea of being made uncomfortable by the way things appear, rather than how things are. Clearly in this business you have to contend with a lot of that. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/one-of-the-things-ive-really-gotten-past-in-the-62237/

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Mann, Aimee. "One of the things I've really gotten past in the last couple of years is the idea of being made uncomfortable by the way things appear, rather than how things are. Clearly in this business you have to contend with a lot of that." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/one-of-the-things-ive-really-gotten-past-in-the-62237/.

MLA Style (9th ed.)
"One of the things I've really gotten past in the last couple of years is the idea of being made uncomfortable by the way things appear, rather than how things are. Clearly in this business you have to contend with a lot of that." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/one-of-the-things-ive-really-gotten-past-in-the-62237/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.

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Aimee Mann (born September 8, 1960) is a Musician from USA.

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