"One thing is certain, You can't shake hands with a fist"
About this Quote
Coe’s intent feels less like bumper-sticker wisdom and more like a working musician’s read on human conflict: barroom disputes, relationship blowups, political standoffs. A fist isn’t just aggression; it’s self-protection, pride, the refusal to be vulnerable. The subtext is that reconciliation requires a visible surrender of leverage. Not total surrender of your values, but surrender of the posture that says, “I’m here to win, not to understand.” That’s why the handshake matters: it’s an agreement to be briefly defenseless.
The cultural context matters, too. Coe’s outlaw-country persona trades in distrust of institutions and sentimental platitudes, so the line’s power comes from its bluntness. It doesn’t romanticize forgiveness; it frames it as a choice with a cost. If you want negotiation, intimacy, or even just a truce, unclench first - not because it’s noble, but because the alternative isn’t “tough love.” It’s stalemate dressed up as strength.
Quote Details
| Topic | Peace |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Coe, David Allan. (n.d.). One thing is certain, You can't shake hands with a fist. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/one-thing-is-certain-you-cant-shake-hands-with-a-141231/
Chicago Style
Coe, David Allan. "One thing is certain, You can't shake hands with a fist." FixQuotes. Accessed February 2, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/one-thing-is-certain-you-cant-shake-hands-with-a-141231/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"One thing is certain, You can't shake hands with a fist." FixQuotes, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/one-thing-is-certain-you-cant-shake-hands-with-a-141231/. Accessed 2 Feb. 2026.






