"Only by joy and sorrow does a person know anything about themselves and their destiny. They learn what to do and what to avoid"
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The subtext is a critique of comfort as a teacher. Joy can be just as clarifying as grief because it exposes what you actually value, not what you claim to value. Sorrow, meanwhile, strips away the ego’s curated story and forces contact with limits: mortality, regret, rejection, the plain fact of not getting what you want. Between them, they function like a personal laboratory: emotional data points that turn vague personality into tested character.
Calling it “destiny” adds a typically Goethean twist. He’s not arguing for a fixed script so much as a felt trajectory - a life that discloses its direction through lived experience. “What to do and what to avoid” is pragmatic, almost anti-romantic: the grand drama of feeling is ultimately valuable because it produces judgment. In a culture that treats emotion as either indulgence or pathology, Goethe insists it’s evidence.
Quote Details
| Topic | Wisdom |
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| Source | Later attribution: Tasting The Divine Romance (Shree Anand Krishna, 2025) modern compilationID: NGc-EQAAQBAJ
Evidence:
... Johann Wolfgang von Goethe " I don't know what your destiny will be , but one thing I know : the only ... Only by joy and sorrow does a person know anything about themselves and their destiny . They learn what to do and what to avoid ... |
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Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von. (2026, February 8). Only by joy and sorrow does a person know anything about themselves and their destiny. They learn what to do and what to avoid. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/only-by-joy-and-sorrow-does-a-person-know-7937/
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Goethe, Johann Wolfgang Von. "Only by joy and sorrow does a person know anything about themselves and their destiny. They learn what to do and what to avoid." FixQuotes. February 8, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/only-by-joy-and-sorrow-does-a-person-know-7937/.
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"Only by joy and sorrow does a person know anything about themselves and their destiny. They learn what to do and what to avoid." FixQuotes, 8 Feb. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/only-by-joy-and-sorrow-does-a-person-know-7937/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.
















