"Our attitudes have changed a lot, really, and so there's a certain toughness about it"
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The phrasing does the work. “Really” sounds like a conversational shrug, but it also functions as a check on nostalgia: yes, the change is real, and no, we don’t get to pretend we’re unchanged by it. “Certain” is strategic vagueness, the kind public figures use when they’re talking about something culturally sensitive without lighting a match. It implies toughness isn’t wholly admirable; it’s just what’s happened.
Coming from an actor, the subtext leans meta. Acting is an empathy job, and empathy is harder to perform - and harder to receive - in a climate trained to watch for inauthenticity. The “toughness” may be the armor people wear now: less patience for sentiment, quicker to judge, quicker to defend. Northam’s intent feels diagnostic, not scolding. He’s pointing to a cultural temperament: we’ve become more fluent in critique, and less comfortable with softness.
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Northam, Jeremy. (2026, January 15). Our attitudes have changed a lot, really, and so there's a certain toughness about it. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/our-attitudes-have-changed-a-lot-really-and-so-142913/
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Northam, Jeremy. "Our attitudes have changed a lot, really, and so there's a certain toughness about it." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/our-attitudes-have-changed-a-lot-really-and-so-142913/.
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"Our attitudes have changed a lot, really, and so there's a certain toughness about it." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/our-attitudes-have-changed-a-lot-really-and-so-142913/. Accessed 17 Feb. 2026.



