"Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same but get better"
About this Quote
The wit is in the pivot from grand abstraction to a blunt consumer-style specification: not just “better,” but “remain the same but get better.” That phrasing exposes a childish logic lurking inside adult politics and workplace talk. It’s the homeowner who wants a renovated kitchen without dust, the voter who wants cheaper healthcare without any disruption, the office that wants innovation without retraining or new hierarchies. Harris translates all of that into one sentence that sounds like common sense until you hear how impossible it is.
Context matters: writing in mid-century America, Harris watched a country speed-running into the future - suburbs, television, civil rights battles, Cold War anxiety - while selling itself the story that prosperity could keep everything familiar. His “dilemma” isn’t just personal psychology; it’s civic. Democracies run on promises of improvement, but the electorate often punishes the visible costs of getting there.
The subtext is a warning to leaders, reformers, and anyone pitching a new idea: people don’t only fear change; they fear the loss of identity that change implies. If you want buy-in, you have to negotiate that grief, not mock it.
Quote Details
| Topic | Change |
|---|---|
| Source | Attributed to Sydney J. Harris; citation listed on Wikiquote (page: 'Sydney J. Harris'). |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Harris, Sydney J. (2026, January 15). Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same but get better. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/our-dilemma-is-that-we-hate-change-and-love-it-at-131061/
Chicago Style
Harris, Sydney J. "Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same but get better." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/our-dilemma-is-that-we-hate-change-and-love-it-at-131061/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same but get better." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/our-dilemma-is-that-we-hate-change-and-love-it-at-131061/. Accessed 21 Feb. 2026.







