"Pain can be alleviated by morphine, but the pain of social ostracism cannot be taken away"
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The intent is both personal and political. Jarman, an openly gay filmmaker who made work that antagonized British respectability, understood how exclusion operates as social control: it keeps people pliant, grateful, quiet. By comparing rejection to untreated pain, he exposes how "community" can act like a weapon, especially against queer people and anyone marked as disobedient. The line also carries the AIDS-era subtext hovering around his career: morphine evokes end-of-life care, the clinical management of bodies deemed tragic; ostracism evokes the stigma that outlived sympathy. You could be offered compassion in private and still be shunned in public.
What makes the sentence work is its cold clarity. No metaphorical flourish, no plea for understanding. Just a grim accounting of what society is willing to address (the visible, the medical, the solvable) and what it prefers to leave unspoken (the social cruelty it depends on). Jarman turns loneliness into an indictment: the most devastating pain is the kind everyone helps create and no one is obligated to relieve.
Quote Details
| Topic | Loneliness |
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| Source | Later attribution: The Psychology of Social Conflict and Aggression (Joseph P. Forgas, Arie W. Kruglanski,..., 2011) modern compilationISBN: 9781136636127 · ID: w8h5AgAAQBAJ
Evidence:
... Pain can be alleviated by morphine but the pain of social ostracism cannot be taken away. Derek Jarman (1994, p. 113). INTRODUCTION. Over the past decade, there has been considerable debate as to whether being ostracized (being excluded ... |
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