"People are going to say what they want to say and think what they want to think, and I can't change their minds"
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The second half is where the emotional math happens: “I can’t change their minds.” That’s less surrender than triage. Celebrities are expected to be their own PR departments, endlessly clarifying, correcting, apologizing, explaining. Duff flips the script: the labor of persuasion is optional, and the cost of chasing approval is too high. It’s a quiet rebuke to the culture of demanded access, where fans and critics alike treat a person’s life as a participatory narrative.
Context matters because Duff’s career sits at a hinge point: early-2000s teen stardom, pre-social media but fully tabloid-saturated, then adulthood under the harsher, more intimate surveillance of the internet. The quote reads like a survival tactic for that shift. Its subtext: I’ll control what I can (my choices, my work, my home), and I’ll stop pretending I can manage what I can’t (your projections). In a world that monetizes constant reaction, opting out becomes its own kind of agency.
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Duff, Hilary. (2026, January 15). People are going to say what they want to say and think what they want to think, and I can't change their minds. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-are-going-to-say-what-they-want-to-say-and-140990/
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Duff, Hilary. "People are going to say what they want to say and think what they want to think, and I can't change their minds." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-are-going-to-say-what-they-want-to-say-and-140990/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"People are going to say what they want to say and think what they want to think, and I can't change their minds." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-are-going-to-say-what-they-want-to-say-and-140990/. Accessed 5 Feb. 2026.






