"People are what you make them. A scornful look turns into a complete fool a man of average intelligence. A contemptuous indifference turns into an enemy a woman who, well treated, might have been an angel"
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Maurois is dressing up a blunt social weapon as moral insight: your “treatment” of others doesn’t just reflect what you think of them, it manufactures the version of them you then claim to observe. The line works because it flips a comfortable hierarchy. The scornful observer imagines he’s merely recognizing stupidity; Maurois suggests he’s producing it, turning “average intelligence” into performative foolishness through humiliation. Scorn isn’t neutral judgment, it’s a stage direction.
The gendered split is the sharpest (and most dated) part of the quote. Men become “fools” under ridicule; women become “enemies” under indifference, and can be “angels” if “well treated.” That’s both revealing and strategically manipulative: it grants the speaker enormous power while smuggling in a paternalistic fantasy of female virtue as something unlocked by proper handling. The subtext isn’t simply “be kind.” It’s a warning about the social alchemy of respect and the violence of casual disdain, especially in intimate or dependent relationships where a look, a shrug, a chill can reorganize someone’s sense of self.
Placed in Maurois’s early-20th-century milieu - salons, class markers, manners as social currency - the observation lands as etiquette with teeth. He’s diagnosing how contempt functions as an instrument of control: it doesn’t just hurt, it hardens. Treat people like caricatures and they’ll eventually play the part, not because they are that way, but because you’ve made their dignity too expensive to maintain.
The gendered split is the sharpest (and most dated) part of the quote. Men become “fools” under ridicule; women become “enemies” under indifference, and can be “angels” if “well treated.” That’s both revealing and strategically manipulative: it grants the speaker enormous power while smuggling in a paternalistic fantasy of female virtue as something unlocked by proper handling. The subtext isn’t simply “be kind.” It’s a warning about the social alchemy of respect and the violence of casual disdain, especially in intimate or dependent relationships where a look, a shrug, a chill can reorganize someone’s sense of self.
Placed in Maurois’s early-20th-century milieu - salons, class markers, manners as social currency - the observation lands as etiquette with teeth. He’s diagnosing how contempt functions as an instrument of control: it doesn’t just hurt, it hardens. Treat people like caricatures and they’ll eventually play the part, not because they are that way, but because you’ve made their dignity too expensive to maintain.
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| Topic | Respect |
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