"People commonly educate their children as they build their houses, according to some plan they think beautiful, without considering whether it is suited to the purposes for which they are designed"
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Montagu skewers a particular kind of parental vanity: the impulse to treat a child like an architectural project, optimized for display rather than use. The comparison is cutting because it’s domestic and bourgeois in the sharpest way. A house built to impress the neighbors can still leak; a child trained to look “well-bred” can still be helpless in the weather of real life. Her target isn’t education as such, but education as aesthetic performance: manners, polish, and the correct cultural furnishings, chosen because they’re fashionable or “beautiful,” not because they prepare a person for the world they’ll actually inhabit.
The subtext is a critique of class aspiration and the decorative roles assigned to children, especially girls, in an 18th-century society that prized refinement as social currency. Montagu, who moved through elite circles and had the vantage of travel and outsider observation, knew how often “good education” meant a narrow curriculum of ornament: languages for display, accomplishments for marriage, virtue as reputation management. The house metaphor also quietly raises a moral question: if you wouldn’t design a building without thinking about its purpose, why design a human life around someone else’s taste?
What makes the line work is its cool practicality. She doesn’t moralize; she engineers. Purpose becomes the standard that exposes the fraud. Beauty isn’t dismissed, but subordinated to function, and that inversion reads like an early argument against parenting as status theater. Montagu’s wit is the scalpel: polite on the surface, devastating underneath.
The subtext is a critique of class aspiration and the decorative roles assigned to children, especially girls, in an 18th-century society that prized refinement as social currency. Montagu, who moved through elite circles and had the vantage of travel and outsider observation, knew how often “good education” meant a narrow curriculum of ornament: languages for display, accomplishments for marriage, virtue as reputation management. The house metaphor also quietly raises a moral question: if you wouldn’t design a building without thinking about its purpose, why design a human life around someone else’s taste?
What makes the line work is its cool practicality. She doesn’t moralize; she engineers. Purpose becomes the standard that exposes the fraud. Beauty isn’t dismissed, but subordinated to function, and that inversion reads like an early argument against parenting as status theater. Montagu’s wit is the scalpel: polite on the surface, devastating underneath.
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