"People give one another things that can't be gift wrapped"
About this Quote
Her intent is to reframe exchange as something messier and more morally charged than presents. What we actually hand each other, Gordimer implies, are intangibles that cling: attention, shame, protection, possibility, trauma, silence. Some of these are blessings; some are burdens we never asked for. The subtext is that “giving” isn’t automatically virtuous. A “gift” can be leverage, a claim, a way of controlling the receiver’s future. It can also be the opposite: an unpayable act of care that creates obligation precisely because it can’t be reciprocated in kind.
Context matters with Gordimer. Writing under and against apartheid, she understood how power moves through households, friendships, and love affairs, not just parliaments and police stations. In unequal societies, the most consequential offerings are often invisible: access, risk, complicity, refuge. By choosing the language of wrapping paper and decor, she exposes a cultural fantasy that generosity is tidy. Her sentence strips that fantasy down to the raw transaction underneath: we are constantly exchanging parts of ourselves, and the receipts don’t come printed.
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| Topic | Kindness |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Gordimer, Nadine. (2026, January 15). People give one another things that can't be gift wrapped. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-give-one-another-things-that-cant-be-gift-120401/
Chicago Style
Gordimer, Nadine. "People give one another things that can't be gift wrapped." FixQuotes. January 15, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-give-one-another-things-that-cant-be-gift-120401/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"People give one another things that can't be gift wrapped." FixQuotes, 15 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-give-one-another-things-that-cant-be-gift-120401/. Accessed 17 Feb. 2026.











