"People have always found me challenging - I don't know why, when I am only being myself. I don't understand why they find me so annoying but they do. It is pity, but that is how it is"
About this Quote
The phrasing performs a careful little drama. "Challenging" is the polite label others give him; "annoying" is the blunt one. He repeats the complaint almost compulsively, as if replaying an argument in his head, and then snaps it shut with "It is pity". That last sentence - "but that is how it is" - lands like granite: resignation that also reads as verdict. It’s not self-pity so much as self-mythmaking, the artist as unavoidable irritant.
Context matters because Finlay wasn’t merely a "difficult" personality in the abstract. He fought real battles over his garden at Little Sparta, over public language, over what could be placed, said, or owned. His minimalist classicism and his flirtations with martial imagery made him legible to critics as cold, severe, even politically suspect. This quote turns that reception into part of the artwork: the annoyance becomes proof of authenticity, and authenticity becomes its own kind of weapon.
Quote Details
| Topic | Loneliness |
|---|---|
| Source | Help us find the source |
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APA Style (7th ed.)
Finlay, Ian Hamilton. (2026, January 18). People have always found me challenging - I don't know why, when I am only being myself. I don't understand why they find me so annoying but they do. It is pity, but that is how it is. FixQuotes. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-have-always-found-me-challenging-i-dont-20997/
Chicago Style
Finlay, Ian Hamilton. "People have always found me challenging - I don't know why, when I am only being myself. I don't understand why they find me so annoying but they do. It is pity, but that is how it is." FixQuotes. January 18, 2026. https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-have-always-found-me-challenging-i-dont-20997/.
MLA Style (9th ed.)
"People have always found me challenging - I don't know why, when I am only being myself. I don't understand why they find me so annoying but they do. It is pity, but that is how it is." FixQuotes, 18 Jan. 2026, https://fixquotes.com/quotes/people-have-always-found-me-challenging-i-dont-20997/. Accessed 12 Feb. 2026.



