"People need something or someone to fasten themselves to in order to reassure themselves that they are real"
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DiFranco’s line lands like a diagnosis disguised as a lyric: identity isn’t an inner treasure we calmly possess, it’s a sensation we keep having to prove. The verb “fasten” does a lot of work. It isn’t “connect” or “love.” It’s the language of straps and anchors, of making yourself stay put. That choice hints at need, even panic, and it frames relationships, ideologies, scenes, and causes as survival gear as much as sincere attachment.
The subtext is less romantic than it first appears. “Something or someone” collapses the distance between a person and a placeholder: a lover, a band, a job title, a political tribe, a sobriety chip, a hometown bar. They can all become the same function - a mirror that reflects you back strongly enough to quiet the dread that you’re drifting. “Reassure themselves that they are real” points to the modern problem DiFranco has always circled: the self as a contested territory, constantly rewritten by capitalism, gender expectations, and the social pressure to perform a coherent story.
Context matters because DiFranco emerged from a fiercely DIY, late-80s/90s culture that treated authenticity as both religion and currency. Her work often refuses the neat identities the world offers, but she’s honest about the cost of that refusal: when you won’t accept the prefab scripts, you still hunger for proof you exist. The line doesn’t shame attachment; it exposes how easily attachment slides into self-validation, and how fragile “real” can feel without an audience, a cause, or a hand to hold.
The subtext is less romantic than it first appears. “Something or someone” collapses the distance between a person and a placeholder: a lover, a band, a job title, a political tribe, a sobriety chip, a hometown bar. They can all become the same function - a mirror that reflects you back strongly enough to quiet the dread that you’re drifting. “Reassure themselves that they are real” points to the modern problem DiFranco has always circled: the self as a contested territory, constantly rewritten by capitalism, gender expectations, and the social pressure to perform a coherent story.
Context matters because DiFranco emerged from a fiercely DIY, late-80s/90s culture that treated authenticity as both religion and currency. Her work often refuses the neat identities the world offers, but she’s honest about the cost of that refusal: when you won’t accept the prefab scripts, you still hunger for proof you exist. The line doesn’t shame attachment; it exposes how easily attachment slides into self-validation, and how fragile “real” can feel without an audience, a cause, or a hand to hold.
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| Topic | Meaning of Life |
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